Give importance about something more important than adversity
Recently my grand mother passed away and since I am pretty close to her, I felt a huge weight on my head out of sadness. I cried alone as I stay alone in Bangalore. Like someone said when an elderly person dies, it is like an old library burned into dust. We have memories and teachings of her, however the feeling of never going to see her in this mortal realm is very painful to accept. Its like an emptiness that may take some times to fill.
Well at this juncture I happen to come across this book and it made a lot sense to me. I felt like passing some of its knowledge to help people, who have emptiness caused by any kind of adversity they might be going through.
It’s easy to get suckered into the idea that happiness comes from things like nicer jobs, more rugged cars, and prettier girlfriends. But as Mark Manson points out in his book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, that’s not necessarily the case.
Instead, you need to realize that happiness takes effort and even pain. And that’s a good thing. If you can’t face those struggles, you won’t be happy. But if you can do those things, then you can live a life that is satisfying and rewarding, one that doesn’t involve chasing a mirage of happiness and satisfaction.
The first step toward not giving up to adversity is to find something that you care about enough to be willing to give it your attention. It can be a problem you’re having, or it can be an achievement you’re trying to achieve.
If you’re struggling with a problem, it’s important to take a break and think about what you want out of life. Do you want to be happy? If so, what are you going to do about it?
When you’re facing a challenge, you have a limited number of choices to give. If you give too many, you’re going to end up wasting time and energy on things that don’t matter.
Similarly, you have a limited number of importance to give to people who are annoying or frustrating. If you give too many, they’ll make you angry and irritated. They’ll also feel a sense of entitlement.
But the good news is that it’s a lot easier to stop giving value about these people than you might think. Once you learn to say no without being an idiot/ emotional fool, you’ll have a much more productive and fulfilling life.
In the same way, you’re going to have a more peaceful and fulfilling relationship with the people who you love most.
The key to not giving time about anything is to be comfortable with but being different and reserving your times for the big stuff that matters. You can’t be a good friend or partner if you’re always indifferent to their problems. You can’t be a confident man or woman if you’re always indifferent to your own achievements and accomplishments.
The world is constantly telling you that the path to a better life is to buy more, own more, and make more. But the problem is that if you give too many priority to everything, you’re going to be overly attached to the superficial and fake, and you’ll end up living a life chasing a mirage of happiness and pleasure.
When you’re young, you may have no idea that it’s even possible to make this kind of a choice. But as you mature and grow into an adult, you can start to understand that you’re always making choices about what to give a importance.
It’s easy to let yourself get caught up in the rat race of the modern world, where we’re so quick to judge and compare ourselves to others. It’s difficult to realize that a simple optioning of your own values is already the key to being a beautiful, successful, and loved person.
See you in the next blog again.