The Behaviors that Show Immediate Red Flag

Abhiseka Mohapatra
2 min readFeb 5, 2023

We are humans, and hence we tend to do mistake often. Those who learn out of their own or from others are wise people. Once you learn to understand the behavior of people, you tend to be very selective as there is no point in mingle with people having red-flag (mentioned in the article).

Just imagine these red flags are devils. Wiser human knows it hence keep introspecting self and do not allow them to ride over self. However fools don’t feel the same they allow all these devils to jump on their shoulder and carries it everywhere.


So let me tell you about these red-flags and you decide yourself whether you wan to well behaved wise man or an self sabotaging fool.

  1. Showing low self-awareness

Someone with a lack of self-awareness is usually not willing to listen to what others have to say about their behaviors at home, at work, or in relationships. They tend to view feedback as criticism, especially if they are insecure, have low self-esteem, or think they are beyond reproach.

2. Complains about other people

People who complain about other people to get attention, to remove responsibility, to inspire envy (or brag), to make themselves more powerful or look perfect, and to excuse poor performance. Avoid them.

3. Constantly talking negative about their exes

This indicates that they either have not finished processing their emotionally baggage, or they are a resentful and bitter person.

4. Those that seem not to be proud of you or proud of your achievements

When they always talk down on your efforts and achievements and never encourage little progress. Avoid them.

5. People who never apologize

If someone is unable to apologize for any wrongdoings then you might need to re-evaluate your relationship with them.

6. When their core values are different from yours

If your core values and interests around things such as self-development, money, and lifestyle do not synchronize with theirs, re-evaluate your relationship with them.

7. Those who never take feedback well

People who avoid feedback because they hate being told about their shortcomings or so sensitive to hearing about their own imperfections.

8. Those who want to Micromanage your life

When they want to control every aspect of your life to erodes your self-esteem and autonomy. You need to be trusted to make your own decisions about some things.



Abhiseka Mohapatra

I am a story teller, love to write about Human behavior and keep observing things - how they change with time.